What Am I WILLING To Do?

I feel it's fair for me to say that on any given day it feels easier for us to say we are not able to do the things we know are good for us like exercise, meditate, and drink another cup of water, rest, save money etc. My message for today is simply this:

Start with What am I willing to do?

If, like me, you have neglected parts of yourself in the past, then the same feelings of guilt and shame may be rising up for you now; however, I feel this question introduces a much needed conversation with oneself.

Try thinking about how you’re so ready and willing to make a commitment to any other person, even when it comes with feelings of guilt, discomfort or a hard internal “Hell No!”. You will still help your sister with her kids, raise your hand volunteering for your friends event planning when let's be real.. You don't really want to.

Why do you do it? More importantly, why the heck not for yourself?

Answer me this; When was the first time you were made to feel guilty about taking care of yourself and your needs first? How many times were you called selfish when you did?How did that make you feel? You’re not selfish. It’s not selfish. It’s necessary for your own healing and the relationship you have with yourself to follow through on your commitments. If you have zero commitments to yourself right now, I may be right in saying it’s because you’ve made them in the past and failed to follow through. I say that with genuine compassion and love because that’s EXACTLY what it was for me too. I spent years, and I mean years wondering why people failed to show up for me when I needed them. The hard pill I had to swallow was that of my own self-rejection and neglect from years of believing I wasn't worth my own love and care. Things changed significantly once I accepted this fully.

It gets easier when you’re asking yourself daily, “what am I willing to do for myself today?” Making any commitment or promise to yourself (and keeping that promise) will be the key to building trust with yourself again. With self-trust, comes more self-love.

Let's commit together, right now, to love ourselves enough to start small by asking this every day: “What am I willing to do today?”