Breaking Free from Limiting Beliefs

Limiting beliefs are like invisible chains that quietly shape our decisions, emotions, and interactions. These deeply rooted thoughts and feelings —such as “I’m not good enough” or “I have to do everything perfectly”—hold us back from living authentically, loving ourselves fully, and building meaningful relationships.

Limiting beliefs are assumptions or perceptions we hold about ourselves and the world that restrict our potential. These beliefs often form in childhood due to past experiences, cultural or societal conditioning and repetitive narratives (Internalized messages from family, teachers, or peers). 

While these beliefs might have served as coping mechanisms at one point, they often outlive their purpose and create barriers to personal growth, self-love, and connection.

Some examples of limiting beliefs and the impact they have: 

“I’m not good enough.” This was my belief & it fuels feelings of inadequacy, leading to self-doubt and constant comparison. In relationships, it caused  me deep insecurity, fear of rejection, and an inability to accept love. This showed up mostly by me then needing external validation to feel worthy. 

These can create codependency and foster unhealthy dynamics where you sacrifice your needs to maintain relationships. “I’m not good enough” can prevent you from pursuing meaningful relationships or advocating for your needs.

A familiar one for parents, particularly myself now as a mother is: “I have to put everyone else first.” 

This belief creates burnout and resentment, as I began to neglect my own needs to please others or make things easier for others. It can leave you feeling unseen and unfulfilled in your relationships - it sure did that for me in early motherhood! I still feel guilty for prioritising myself at times with this belief. 

My Virgo Rising and controlling behaviours loves this one -  “I’m not lovable unless I’m perfect.”

Perfectionism creates anxiety and a fear of failure, leaving little room for genuine connection. In relationships, it can result in defensiveness or the need to control situations. Beliefs like this one and even “I have to do everything perfectly” may cause you to demand the same from others, leading to conflict.

Overall, Limiting beliefs create self-protective barriers, making it hard to fully connect with others. But there is another way that I teach, and have worked with hundreds, if not thousands of women, to overcome such beliefs to improve relationships, restore unshakeable confidence and true self worth: 

First, we must Identify the Belief which includes investigating your your recurring negative thoughts and feelings.

Reflect here: Where does this belief come from? and How does it show up in my life? 

Further to this, let’s understand: Is this belief absolutely true? Does it feel true? And what evidence is there to prove or disprove it? 

How I can most help you learn and overcome is at the point where we must FEEL the emotions attached to the beliefs. Feeling the emotion fully means you release its power over your mind and body (where they’re stored) 

Throughout the process we are Practicing Self-Compassion - while getting to the root of the belief where it started, to heal it from there. 

Limiting beliefs are not permanent truths—they’re stories you’ve told yourself, often for years. The beauty is, you have the power to rewrite these stories. By identifying, challenging, and feeling  them fully, you can create space for self-love, authentic connections, and personal growth.

When you free yourself from these invisible chains, you unlock a life of greater fulfillment and deeper relationships—not just with others, but with yourself. Remember, the first step to breaking free is believing that change is possible. And it is.